FROM DRAMA TO EMPOWERMENT

Card 1 of 3 • The Two Triangles at a Glance
Reactive DDT → Deliberate TED*
Same energy, different operating system.

VICTIM (Reactive)
"Poor me"
Feels powerless and stuck. Waits to be rescued. Focuses on what's wrong, not what's possible.
↓
CREATOR (Deliberate)
"What do I want?"
Takes ownership of outcomes. Focuses on desired results. Asks what's possible, not just what's wrong.
PERSECUTOR (Reactive)
"It's your fault"
Blames, criticizes, controls. Often a Victim who got power, or a Rescuer who ran out of patience.
↓
CHALLENGER (Deliberate)
"I believe you can"
Direct and honest — but challenges toward growth, not shame. Holds people to their potential.
RESCUER (Reactive)
"Let me fix it"
Jumps in to fix and save. Keeps the Victim dependent. The most common leadership trap — looks like help.
↓
COACH (Deliberate)
"What do you think?"
Asks open-ended questions. Uses empathy to connect. Trusts capability. Develops, not rescues.
*The Dreaded Drama Triangle created by Steven B. Karpman
*The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*) created by David Emerald
Good Human Great Leader Workshop by Jody Fletcher

COACH SELF-CHECK

Card 2 of 3 • Am I coaching or rescuing right now?
Yes/No shuts thinking down. Open-ended opens it up.

🚩 RED FLAGS (Coach mode breaking down)
  • ❌ Starting with "I would..." or "You should..."
  • ❌ Asking yes/no questions instead of open-ended
  • ❌ Offering solutions before they've found theirs
  • ❌ Feeling responsible for solving their problem
✅ GREEN FLAGS (Coach mode holding)
  • ✔️ Asking open-ended questions even when you know the answer
  • ✔️ Letting them sit in discomfort — no jumping in
  • ✔️ Supporting them in finding their own next move
  • ✔️ Feeling curious instead of responsible
WHEN YOU FEEL THE TRIANGLE — ASK:

"Which role am I in right now?"

"What outcome do I actually want?"

"What would the Coach ask instead?"

Good Human Great Leader Workshop by Jody Fletcher

GO DEEPER

Card 3 of 3 • Resources from today's workshop

The Power of TED*
David Emerald — 10th Anniversary Edition
The foundational book behind today's workshop. The story of shifting from Victim to Creator, Rescuer to Coach, Persecutor to Challenger.
Empathy vs. Sympathy
RSA Animated Short • Brené Brown
The difference between empathy and sympathy, and why empathy is the heart of the Coach role. "Empathy fuels connection. Sympathy drives disconnection."
*The Dreaded Drama Triangle created by Steven B. Karpman
*The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*) created by David Emerald
Leadership begins with the person in the mirror.
Good Human Great Leader Workshop by Jody Fletcher

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